7/26/2005
On and off days
American Soldier says,
Today I am having one of those off days. For most of the morning all I could think about was being with my unit. Yes I know people are going to say that it’s going to take some time and so on. However I am so torn right now. I was thinking this morning that I gave so much in my training. I did so much and I feel its all for nothing.
You hear about those Soldiers back in WWII that even after being shot, would go AWOL from the field Hospital to just be with their fellow Soldier. Well I’m feeling that way today. It’s so hard to just explain why I feel this way. You’d have to walk a mile in my boots. 9W anyone?
I am trying to integrate and function like civilian Joe. Seems that for the moment that my mindset is not here. I do enjoy being home, trust me. I have a very supportive wife and it seems that I have become a lot closer with my children. I know it would break all their hearts if I had to go again. Why does warrior blood have to run so thick in my veins?
My wife told me as we went to bed that she doesn’t want to have to go through that again. I told her that we would be fine. She means well and I know that she would be supportive if I had to go again but the wound is still a little fresh.
So that is my train of thought for the moment.
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AS, I can’t say I know how you feel. I can’t tell you it will get easier with time. But I can tell you, your a beautiful soul. The heart of that warrior is something I will never forget.
God Bless You AS.
I wish i had the perfect words to say, a magic wand to make it all better right away. But since I have neither, all I have to offer is this:
{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}} and many, many prayers.
You are in our prayers… we love you, are thankful for you, and are proud of you.
Hang in there!!!!
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While I struggle to understand the soldier mindset, one concept applies to everyone…live with no regrets, A.S.
i know exactly how you feel i got back from iraq last april(2004) and have already volunteered for another tour. it would be my 3rd so it’s not like i’m going in blind . i did desert storm then 11 years later i came back to finish the job and still feel the need to go back again. maybe i’m nuts i don’t know
Dancingbear -
Not nuts…..just that unsaid commitment Soldiers have to each other.
so how many babys have you killed? torture anyone lately?
AS,
I wish you and your family well. Hang in there. You and your family have been through a lot and have a great deal of strength. Praying for you.
noSays,
You are a very sick person.
sicker than a trained murderer? i’ve never killed anyone and i never will.
to “no”- the duty to serve our country is something that most do not and maybe never will understand and if your in danger in that process then you will defend yourself and fellow soldiers and if killing is part of it then it is, thats the life of a soldier. keep your nasty comments to yourslef.
AS- hang in there, your such a strong person and i admire that about you and your family. your in my prayers, rock on.
NO-
My husband has done many wonderful and heroic things for this country. As have countless others. They do them for people like you.
It’s sounds like you may not agree with the war, that’s fine. But the men and women fight for thier lives with so many unknowns. Is that next car going to be carrying an explosive, is that child straped with dynamite, etc… the list goes on. In a country where the enemy blends in so well you can never tell. Do not blame the soldiers for protecting themselves and thier fellow commrades. I’m sure you would do all that you could to make sure you and yours were safe from harm if they were under and kind of attack.
It is not a matter of killing innocent people. It is a matter of survival from an unknown enemy. Any solider would be willing to lay down thier life to protect this country, no matter what the cost. In war there will always be innocent lives taken, no matter how hard we try to avoid it. It could be from our soliders or the enemy. That’s how war is.
Well said Soldier’s Wife. kuddos
No has been protected and given the right to voice that filth from men and women like AS.
THANK YOU AS and every other Soldier. God Bless You.
Dear AS. You are a hero to so many of us. You know in your heart that liberating millions from savage dictators is well worth doing. Our troops have done and continue to do a good job. Pay no attention to crackpots such as No. He/she could not hold a candle to the men and women in our military. You served well and deserve to have pride in doing what you have been trained to do. I understand your wifes view since having you so far away and in danger is hard to accept. I am certain she would still support you if called to serve again. Know we admire you and thank God for those willing to protect us despite the abuse some unthinking persons may heap on you. Shrug those broad shoulders and hold your head high.
Dear American Soldier,
My boyfriend is in basic training at Fort Benning to be a Indirect Fire Infantryman. I am moving in with him, once his 9 weeks in Basic Training, and then 8 weeks in Advanced Individual Training are over with. What I was wondering is how is life for him after they station him somewhere? What does he do each day? Does he have a civilian job when he’s not deployed? How hard will it be for me to deal with him being in the Army, and maybe getting deployed? Please reply. Thanks God Bless You,
Gabrielle
Gabrielle! My boyfriend is at Fort Bennig as well training to be an infantry man! He just finnished his Basic part of is, and has now moved into the AIT part 3 and 1/2 months!! I miss him!! I have the same questions and fears as you! Althoughthe is in the National Guard…there is not a spot for him to contract with our ROTC at school right now…
I know exactly how you feel and how scary it is and how hard it is to deal with all of this at once! Just know that someone out there is feeling exactly the same way you are…all I can say is thank God we have people like our boyfriends willing to fight and protect this country! God Bless!! Please feel free to relpy!!
Danielle
“sicker than a trained murderer? i’ve never killed anyone and i never will. ”
Of course not, you just let others do the killing to save your miserable cowardly arse.
Unfortunetely “innocent” morons like your good self are responsible for more deaths than all plagues in the world.
But hey, the hell is paved with “good” intentions (and “useful idiots”).
“i’ve never killed anyone and i never will.”
Of course you haven’t and you won’t, sweetie. You’ll die in your bed safe and secure, an old man, never having put your life on the line for anything, and no one will remember your name.
“When a Roman father told his son that it was a sweet and seemly thing to die for his country, he believed what he said. He was communicating to the son an emotion which he himself shared and which he believed to be in accord with the value which his judgment discerned in noble death. He was giving the boy the best he had, giving of his spirit to humanize him as he had given of his body to beget him.”
—C.S. Lewis “Men Without Chests”
“People sleep peaceably in their beds at night only because rough men stand ready to do violence on their behalf.”
—George Orwell
“No says,” you need to change your name to “no clue.”
after 17 years, and one really fun war…they tell me I’m not medically able to do it anymore. I have a permanently messed-up neck, and now it’s all over. sort of melancholy end to it all.
there’s not much I wouldn’t give to go back.
AS,
Thanks from one of those who can sleep peacefully in his bed at night, and on behalf of my kids. We owe to you and your comrades a debt we can never repay.
As for No, have you considered the trained killers who right now would love to have a chance to saw off your head in the name of their jihad? Given the chance, they will kill you regardless of your attitude toward the war or the brave men and women fighting it. It is our soldiers who keep us, and innocent Muslims safe from the Islamofascists. Think about that the next time you decide to trot out your troglodite mentality before the rest of the world.
AS, thank you for all you have done to keep the rest of us safe. Your bravery is inspiring. I wish I had words to help you through this tough adjustment. But I doubt there are any words that can help…beyond….thank you.
No says…. better to allow people to think you’re an idiot than to open your mouth and remove all doubt. Next time, just say thank you and leave it at that.
Hey AS!
Sorry that you are feeling down about not being with your troops! Hang in there. I feel like that soon you will be good as new and will be able to resume your military career!
Thank you for being that warrior that our country so desperately needs. You have the gift of being a warrior. Not everyone is cut out to be one or can be one! If it weren’t for men like you, our country would be in sad shape.
I’m glad for your family’s sake that you are safe and sound and with them right now. Try to enjoy your time with them. Could be when you get your surgery over with and get healed, the Army will want your expertise again!!
God Bless you and your wife and family!! My prayers are with you and them!!
CHRIS. Learn to spell those big words before you use them, troglodyte. How does the existence of extremists validate killing? I don’t support extremists. I don’t support ANYONE who robs someone else of their life. Also, I don’t know of any extremists who want to kill me. KEVIN, re-read Lewis, I think you missed the point of the book. Re-read Orwell also, particularly 1984 (although if you are living in the US right now you know all about living under a regime). FELIS, how am i responsible for any deaths and how is the US invasion of iraq doing anything to protect me? I don’t recall them finding any of those WMDs that Bush is so fond of talking about and noone has attacked my country. MacStansbury says it all…this is why i am afraid of the united states: “one really fun war”. I’m sure its really really fun. The pictures of US troops torturing POWs and grinning over dead bodies were my favorite. Very tasteful. One for the history books eh Kevin? Glory and honor and all that?
I will have lived a very happy life if I die an old man surrounded by my family and friends from all over the world who I’m quite sure will remember my name even though i will never have killed a single person for the sake of my government or the selfish desire to be famous or for any other reason.
AV I wish you a happy life. In retrospect i am sorry for my first post. I hope you will do the right thing and stay at home with your family who i am sure love you very much and would rather have you with them.
one correction: when i said AV i meant AS.
“Also, I don’t know of any extremists who want to kill me.”
I’m sure there are not a few of the 3,000+ World Trade Center victims who held the same opinion on 9/10/2001.
AS - as you know, one day at a time. Easy for me to say but that’s the thing about adages. Steady on.
Hey there again! I just wanted to pop by and leave another message, to let you know that you & your family are in our thoughts and prayers very much, and to give y’all another
{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}
No profound words of wisdom, sorry…. all i have to offer are a hug & some prayers!
Kat
Email me Gabrielle
Gabrielle, I’m engaged to an Army guy and I had many of the same fears as you at first. I found this website with other military wives, finaces, and girlfriends that helped me get through it and find answers to all my questions. Come check it out. If you don’t like it, there are a ton of yahoo and msn groups out there just the same. Find the one thats right for you!
http://forums.militarywives.com/phpBB3/index.php
I hope you’re having a good day today AS!
Leyah
Leyah! Thank you so much for that website, it will definately help me too. I am about to be engaged to my b/f - we’ve been together forever and he keeps promising me after he gets back from this summer of training I’ll have a ring on my finger!
Although we have to finnish college first, I’m so excited to be married and have a family! I’m just so scared though because I had never pictured myself married to an army guy…and although he says he’ll stay in like finance or something so he can stay close…I KNOW part of him wants to be somewhere else leading a group of troops. It’s so hard because I love him so much, but this is is life dream. He wants me to be honost with him, but I don’t want to ruin all he’s worked so hard for, so all I tell him is that I want him to be here with me and watch our kids grow up together…and he understands. AS - I have the same fears as Gabrielle…I don’t want to steal his dreams from him, but I want to be able to hold a family together and have a job myself for a while. Any advice or words of wisdom?? Basically just tell me I will get through this. lol Thank you! I’m so glad I found this page because all of this has just been building up inside me with now where to go…Thank you everyone! God bless!
Danielle
Hello, my name is Kat and I compulsively post messages on blogs!
Anyway, I stumbled across this a few minutes ago, and thought it was PERFECT and just HAD TO share it with you. 
So,this poem is dedicated with luv to Mr & Mrs. A.S.!!!
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I wish for you…
Comfort on difficult days,
Smiles when sadness intrudes,
Rainbows to follow the clouds,
Sunsets to warm your heart
Gentle hugs when spirits sag,
Friendships to brighten your being,
Beauty for your eyes to see,
Confidence for when you doubt,
Faith so that you can believe,
Courage to know yourself,
Patience to accept the truth,
And love to complete your life.
By Brenda Hager
Oh quit your friggin whinning if you are a soldier you got to go, So shut-up already, what are you Airforce, yeah I bet its hard to live in those air conditioned barracks and play basketball all day, while the infantry and combat arms are fighting. Hey the poetry nice but why not go to
www.libertyunites.us 
and send it to the soldiers and people that die already from the world trade center,Iraq and Afgahnastan. >>>So if you are a soldiers shut up, ruckup, and move out. For all you females find friends that you can trust and I mean other groups of family oriented females and not wild and crazy single females, stay away from the family support group and the Capts wife that runs it. Stay out of Chat pages, clubs, and the like, and thats also to your friends. I have seen many a soldier go crazy because his wife was cheating on him (If you were in D/storm and you were on the port you know what I mean) I am so sick of hearing about how scared people are, da## we all scare one way or the other. These days you can be sitting in your own home and someone can bust in and rob you then kill you, a terrorist can blow you up while you are at the mall. See we are all going to die and there is no way around that. So just expect it and if it doesn’t happen consider yourself lucky. Pray to god in the morning thanking him for letting you make it through the night and pray to god at night for letting you make it through the day. Look your path is already written you can run but in the end when it your time its your time. >>>>All you male soldiers while you are on the ground there remember you are over there for a reason and that is not for scre**ing females. Oh, I have been on enough deployments to know about the 2nd, 3rd months what all you high speed soldiers are looking for and that O.K for a humanitarian mission but not for the two way firing line. In the end just quit whinning and let it go. Wars are tough and the only people that know what you are going through are the people that you are with and thats it. I know that someone is going to write something stupid back. You know what?, unless you been there and I mean been in the middle of all the sh*t you don’t need to talk and I have been there. Lastly what I find the craziest thing is that we send are soldiers to a useless war. While we leave all these crack dealer, and other low-lifes in jail sucking off the taxes of the working person. Why not throw them a uniform and send them over. All these wann-a-be gang members. Let them go to someplace where people fire back. I would love to see that.
tom ~ Two things, and two things only, then I’ll quit wasting my time on you.
First: You have not the FIRST clue…or even a PARTIAL clue about anything about A.S. If you read this blog for ANY lenght of time, you’d see that he and his wife are two of the MOST courageous, strong people with a tremendous amount of integrity. I’d tell you to get a clue, but it would most likely be pointless.
Second: With regard to this: “Hey the poetry nice but why not go to www.libertyunites.us and send it to the soldiers and people that die already..”
Why send poems to those who can no longer benefit from them? The dead suffer no more. The living have to struggle on thruough this wonderful, yet often chaotic and difficult and heartbreaking, life. I *will* send poems, letters, emails, and whatever else I can to any soldier that is or has been in harms way for our country and do everything I can to show that our family supports them and appreciates them for their service. It’s not much, i wish i could do more, but I’ll do whatever I can, little that it is, to show my support.
And, to quote Forrest Gump,
“That’s all I’m gonna say about that.”
A.S. ~ you rock. We truly do appreciate you and all the sacrifices you make and have made for our country. You and Mrs. A.S. are always in our prayers.
Tom,
Interesting monologue. Read my blog and you will see that I am not a REMF, I am in the fight, my boots have been soiled more than once. You talk alot of truth but I think you focus is a bit out of whack. However, I think your means of motivation is somewhat questionable. So enjoy our site and pawn it off on someone else.
I will tell you like I tell all the people who piss me off. Go Fuck Yourself. Don’t like it….then don’t come back to the site. Keep pissing me off and I will ban you. Simple as that. Like America….love it or leave it fuck face!
Hey, AS. Did you happen to see that new TV show called Over There? It started last wednesday on FX. It was pretty intense. Has to do with how the war affects the families of soldiers back home.
I thought it was pretty good. Just wanted to know your opinion, if you saw it.
Chad,
Yes I saw it. I think for the most part it will give people here at home an idea of the reality that Soldiers face. Whether it be in critical decision making or the common bond that Soldiers experience while in combat.
I will be a regular viewer of the show.
tom- you suck and i agree with AS, “fuck yourself”. people can be really rude and inconsiderate. stay stong. leyah- yea the site you posted has some good stuff in it.- danielle-it is hard to have someone you love over-seas but just support him and let him know your there for him.
AS and family,
You are Americas heros, thank-you so much for all you do and sacrifice. I am sorry you have to hear things from people like “No” and Tom, trust me most Americans cringe when we have the misfourtune of meeting people like her or him.
There isn’t a day that goes by that we don’t think about and pray for everyone in the military, and a simple Thank-you pales in comparison to the deep gratitude we feel.
As for not being able to be with your unit, it is hard, just remember everything happens for a reason, and you are doing a lot to support them just by keeping this blog up and helping people remember.
Hey No Says,
You dumb bastard. The arguement perpetuated by the Far Left is that our involvement in Iraq has lead to the terrorism we now face. Maybe you ignorant cowards should put down the pot, crack pipe, or bong and actually get a clue. Two Buddhists Monks were beheaded in Thailand tw o weeks ago. How many Buddhists monks have attacked radical Islam.
When will you morons get a clue? Ben Laden, Al Zal-Wahri have stated their intention is the worldwide return of the Islamic Caliphate and imposition of Sharia on the World. What will happen to this tolerant, pluralistic culture, when that happens?
How long will they let fools like you live? At least they respect Warriors who have courage instead of brain dead stooges and cowards for the Left. Tired of you assholes always impugning those who make great sacrifices to defend our way of life. Screw you asshole.
What crime did the children of Breslan commit? Or those Hindus riding the train this week when they were blown up? Again you bastards on the left need to understand this. If it comes to our survival and we need to thin the herd you are history. You are part of a 5th column supporting our enemy. Ben Laden has stated that his intention is to kill 4 million Americans and two million of those our children. Sooner or later when enough Americans figure out that our survival is at stake you better find somewhere to hide.
American Soldier,
how do I email you? Is it the button at the top that says “contact”? sorry…I’m computer illiterate. ha. Anyways…thanks, please reply so I can email you. God Bless -Gabrielle-
If you fill out the form on the contact page, you will be sending that message directly to AS’s email inbox.
No is just a dumb canadian, so they don’t know much about being brave. At least thats what I recall from that friendly fire incident, where they all went home crying. So that explains his lack of understanding.
Tom is just a tool from Minnesota. silly tools.
Thank you Chad!
AS: Thanks for your service. Services didn’t want me back in the dark ages (medical reasons) so I especially appreciate your service for our country. My son is an infantryman - 4th ID.
As to “no [brain] says” and Tom Thumb — just realize how small they are and ignore them. You are bigger than that.
I retired with 23 yrs of AF Reserve service in 95. LIved in Saudi Arabia for 2 years returning in 2001 due to my husband’s civilian job. I worked with the American joint forces in Riyad as a civilian. ( I know what it is to live in an Islamic country and not have the freedoms I have here. ) I missed the military life (reserve) so much that I came back in Feb 2001 and tried to get back in. After 911 they started listening to me and let me return. I have just reach hi year tenure and now I am out again. But I am not finished serving, I also believe in what we are doing over there and it is better for me to go as an over 50 woman So I am going to the Army Reserve and they seem tothink I can get back in with them.
I know how you feel. In time you do settle in to life with out the military however if you are truly not ready to leave it is very hard. I hope to get back in and if I do, the unit I am targeting will deploy next year. EEEHaaa! back in the life I want to live and die with.
All my warmest regards to you and your family.
Dianne
Thanks Dianne for your service to our country!! As do I thank AS and all of our troops who are so willing to defend us!! You are truly “one of a kind” to want to go back in the military like that! It has got to be in the blood!
Tom of DUMB:
You owe AS an apology. You obviously don’t understand the latest post because you haven’t gone back and read past posts. If you bothered, you would find he was fired up and ready to go, “hot to trot” as some might say. But then there was an injury that stopped all that. They WOULD NOT LET him go. THAT is why he is so frustrated. You attacked AS and basically called him something he is just the opposite of, and you received a well deserved reply.
AS, I am glad you replied like you did. Shows you are still ready to fight. Still got what it takes. I am sure you will get your chance, one way or another.
Keep posting.
AS, you’re the first MilBlogger I have read that actually liked Over There. Here is an interesting article that has feedback from some soldiers who watched it - they felt it made them look like idiots. I was really hoping it would give the moonbats who don’t respect our troops a real insight into what they are going through, but judging from the feedback at most MilBlog sites, that isn’t what it does. Why would I think Hollywood would ever portray the truth?
I hope all is going well for you now as you await your surgery. Stay strong, my friend.
Here’s the link to the article about Over There (and Blackfive has a lot of commenters about it, too):
http://seattlepi.nwsource.com/tv/233932_over26.html
AS–I can’t say I know how you feel (9W is too big for me), but I can sympathize. And I can send big Angel Hugs from this Soldiers Angel to you and your family. It must be so hard to have warrior blood and be prevented from being that warrior. Thank you for your spirit and love for your fellow soldiers and your country. As for the negative commenters, please always remember that they do not make up YOUR America–the true America that you all fight for. Your America is solidly behind you, no matter what. and we are grateful for you. Keep your chin up. You WILL make it. You’re in my prayers.
Thank you so much, American Soldier. Your help really meant a lot to me, and I have much more confidence in the future. Thanks again. God Bless -Gabrielle-
The price of freedom is eternal vigilence
and it’s paid every day in the heart of the warrior
No says: How much time have you put into studying and reading about the military? Are you only regurgitating lines like “baby killer” because you heard someone say it somewhere once?
“A man who has nothing which he cares about more than he does about his personal safety is a miserable creature who has no chance of being free, unless made and kept so by the existing of better men than himself. — John Stuart Mill, “The Contest in America”
Dear AS,
I happened across your website and wanted to write and say THANK YOU!
The sacrifices that young men (and their families) like yourself have made defending freedom throughout this country’s great history can never be forgotten nor taken for granted.
I had the good fortune to be able to travel to France last year and stand on Omaha Beach, Normandy. To be in a foreign country in today’s political climate and see the thousands of white crosses and names forever inscribed in stone, the American flag gently waving overhead, bunkers with guns still pointing down at the beach, buildings still scarred by bullets - it was an emotional experience that I will never forget. Every American who takes their freedom for granted should experience it - for the freedoms that we enjoy today have been and continue to be paid for by those who serve our country.
I consider you and every other man and woman serving this country today an American hero.
My warmest regards to you and your family,
Greg
the fact that you feel that way, is a true credit to who ya are.
there are many many men and women, who would not dare to walk a mile in your shoes, even the first time, let alone long to be with the men still there. you did your time, and we are proud of you for that. there comes a time when each of us has to hand the reins to the next man, and trust that they will guide the sliegh in the right direction.
but for the others, well some people lack the courage, or the ability, to walk the walk that you have walked so well. the fact that you have done so much, is a proof that none of your training was wasted. not at all. it was vindicated and you proved the model correct. with all the anit war protestors who just dont get it, with the whole rest of the world un willing to man up and shoulder any of the burdens of the free world, you and those like you, stood up and did so. you are NO DIFFERENT AT ALL then the men from WW2 you are speaking of. you represent the finest things in them, in the generation of today. i think they would be proud. they are in good company.
more than that though, you certainly dont seem to see it that way. thats most impressive of all. you just did your job. its the humble nature of most soldiers that is worthy of respect and admiration.
perhaps your time will come to go back and serve there again. none of us knows what the future holds. should that happen, you will again do us proud, but for the meantime understand that you have earned the right to be here enjoying home. you have EARNED it in a way that many would work very hard to shirk, to avoid doing, or simply not be able to do at all.
hope this helps, its just my perspective on things.
ev
I wanted to know if the girlfriends are aloud to go to the “turning Blue Ceremony” and the graduation. Because every where I have read they only say Family can go. It is so hard to read his letters and know he will not be home till christmas. Also, I have been told that they read their letters to everyone is this true or not because I would love to tell him somethings but I’m scared they are going to read the letters and pick on him.
Hey Army Girlfriend- my boyfriend graduated from Ft. Benning on Aug. 5th. GO TO THE TURNING BLUE AND GRADUATION!! You are allowed to go!! I went and I’m so glad I did. He came home for a couple weeks and he’s in Ft. Carson now. He’s deploying with 4th ID at the end of October or beginning of November. No- they don’t have to read their letters to everyone. If you’ve got something to tell him, you need to tell him. Trust me- if he does let someone else read your letters it’ll be after he reads them and makes the decision. Crazy thing….falling in love with a soldier. I wouldn’t have it any other way and if you feel the same way I do then you’ll be so damn proud of him at graduation you know in your heart he’s so worth it. I know it’s hard to imagine him not coming home until Christmas but remember this: everythings ok in the end….if it’s not ok it’s not the end. I just wish my boyfriend was gonna be home at Christmas. Enjoy your time together- and tell him everything you have to say.
Shannon_u thank you so much. You have been a very big help. I’m sorry that your boyfriend will not be home for Christmas. Come to find out mine only gets to come home for 10 days so he will be gone before Christmas. Well I just wanted to thank you so much.
I was just wondering when roughly the 36 hour pass will occur during training at Fort Benning. I want to go very badly to be be with my boyfriend, however I am a college student so knowing ahead can help. My bf’s commander sent a letter to his mother with the pass date and graduation date BUT THE DATES ARE NOT EVEN WITHIN THE TIME PERIOD HE WILL B THERE!! any help would be appreciated! thanks
Michealsgirl hey my bf is in fort benning right now and he said they get there 36 hour pass within thier 7th and 9th week they are there. My bf gets his in october. Your bf will not know what day until the week before they get there pass. If you have any other questions just let me know.
AHH i’m so confused. My boyfriend is being deployed in 3 days and i have no idea how to handle this! I knew he was leaving and I had my warning but it seems like before he was ready to go and now he’s sad and scared. I feel bad I don’t know what to say to him because i’m scared and I’m sad! Any ideas on how I can help him?
thanks
Army gf of ft. benning–how do u know his is in october? I think my bf’s will be very late oct/beginning of nov…did your bf’s family receive a letter with the wrong dates too? Im worried that i wont find out in time to get down there
He wrote me a letter and told me his Drill Sargent told him that during there 7th and 9th week in basic they would get their 36 hour leave and his 7th and 9th week falls in october. His parents have only gotten a letter saying when his graduation was going to be and when his turning blue ceremony was. They only get the 36 hour leave if the whole platoon does what they are suppose to. We are worried to so we have booked a hotel room at 3 different hotels in Columbus,Ga for every weekend in october so when he gets his pass we will have somewhere to stay. My bf also said that they get to leave Friday afternoon when they get there leave. Later on your bf should know. Let me know if you bf is in there right now and if he is when mine tells me what date they are having theres I will let you know and that will probley be when yours has his.
Army Girlfriend of Ft.Benning–actually, i wonder if u are counting the reception time as part of the 9 weeks of basic-i guess that doesnt count towards the time period leading up to the pass. So maybe ur bf’s wont b until the beginning of november as well.
Well, since both our boys are there, how about u write to me on aim ok? my screen name is xxprettyvacantxx….maybe we’ll b there at the same time!
loving a soldier- i felt the same way when my soldier left, basically just be there for him and listen to anything he has to say about it. just be honest with eachother about how you feel. hang in there.
future army wife—thank you for the response….he left two days ago and i just got my first email…:???:–i miss him so much already! but i just wanted to say thank you…..
anytime- the first few weeks are always the hardest, my soldier left a couple weeks ago after being home on leave and its the same emotions all over again.
depending on where your soldier is stationed and what his job is he should be able to call during his free time also.
these first ew days are driving me crazy. I’m not quite sure where he’ll be but i hope i get a phone call soon..i’m sorry i keep commenting back! I don’t have anyone to talk to about all this….my friends like i’m insane for carrying on this relationship…but it seems like you’ve went through this a couple times…..i dont’ want to cry everytime i get a letter or email! or when i talk to him…ahh i feel insane! thanks for all the advice
its ok that you keep commenting back.. some of my friends kinda thought the same thing and some still do, tell em to kiss your ass jk
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alot of when he’ll get to call has to do with his job too, my soldier is a fuel truck driver, currently on cq so he can call when ever nobody else is on the phone, depending on his shift.
your not insane, it’ll get a little easier once he’s there for a few weeks or when he finds out the time frame of his leave(so you have something to look forward to) but im not gonna lie, its still gonna be hard to have him there. if you want you can e-mail me at lovemysoldier06@aol.com since my computer is really slow and it takes a while to download this page.
Hey this is for the two girls with bf’s in Fort Benning. My boyfriend is also there and i am also wondering about the 36 hour pass! I actually think my boyfriend gets his this weekend. He is in the Bravo Company 2nd Batalion 58th Infantry Regiment. Are you sure he gets to leave friday afternoon, and if so when does he have to report back….i am planning a road trip! If you want to IM me my s/n is LilGirlyGurl05 (i made it in 6th grade haha!)! We should keep in touch it would be great to talk to some girls who are going through the same thing! Talk to you soon!
Drewsgirl hey if you want to talk my sn is crazyangelhawk just IM me or e-mail me at Crazyangelhawk@aol.com. I feel the same way you do. It does help to talk to girls that are going through the same thing I am.
Hi There!! Im a Marine Wife, and my husband is serving in Iraq right now till Nov- or later!! When he arrives back Im moving to 29 palms California and i dont know a soul there because I have lived in a small Ohio town my whole life! Im hesitant on the change from east coast to west coast and the whole ” not knowing anybody thing”. Im trying to find some wifes who will also be there too! Plus, who knows about what its like from jumping from ur home state to new ones…ANYBODY???????? hope to hear from u ladies!! my thoughts and prayers are with all u marine wifes……Love~ J. Carte!
Missing my man in Iraq!!!! myspace.com/jillian2003!!!!!!! u2?????
Leave me a message @ myspace.com/jillian2003………im a newly wed marine wife..trying to find friends in cali when i move to 29 palms with my husband my jan.
Ladies,
While I was in Iraqi, my wife and others started a yahoo group for the ones left at home. She recomended at as a useful tool for the Family Support Group.